Day 326: On Your Deeds Determining You

第326天：关于你的行为决定了你

Our deeds determine us, as much as we determine our deeds.

我们的行为决定了我们，正如我们决定了我们的行为一样。

—George Elio

You control what actions you take or don’t take, but in the long run, the actions that you take or don’t take also control youbecause they determine who you are.

你可以控制自己采取或不采取什么行动，但从长远来看，你采取或不采取的行动也控制着你，因为它们决定了你是谁。

As confusing as it sounds, there’s an important lesson hiding in there: when pondering what to do or not do, ask yourself what the person you’d like to become would or wouldn’t do. We define people by actions they take, so if you change the actions you take, you’ll also change your own definition of yourself.

这听起来令人困惑，但其中却隐藏着重要的一课：在思考做什么或不做什么时，问问自己，你想成为的那个人，他会做什么或不会做什么。

我们通过人的行为来定义人，所以如果你改变了自己的行为，也就改变了你对自己的定义。

For example, a person who runs often is a runner, while a person who constantly exposes themselves to danger for the fun of it is a daredevil. On the opposite end of the spectrum, a person who sits on the sofa the entire day is a slacker, while a person who never stands up for themselves is a doormat. The primary determinant of a runner, daredevil, slacker or doormat — rather than a specific adjective or trait — is what actions they take or don’t take.

例如，经常跑步的人是跑者，而经常为了好玩而将自己置于危险之中的人是冒失鬼。

相反，整天坐在沙发上的人是懒鬼，而从不为自己挺身而出的人是受气包。

跑者、冒失鬼、懒鬼或受气包的主要决定因素——是他们采取或不采取的行为——而不是一个特定的形容词或特质。

Each action of yours, just like each thought or habit you have, has an impact on the direction your personal change is going to take. Think beyond the immediate consequences and consider each deed as a building block of the new you. What actions are congruent with the person you desire to become and what deeds aren’t ?

你的每一个行为，就像你的每一个想法或习惯一样，都会对你个人改变的方向产生影响。

不要只考虑眼前的后果，要把每一个行为都看作是塑造全新的自己的基石。

哪些行为与你渴望成为的人一致，哪些行为不一致？

When thinking of the person you want to become in the future, along with setting new goals, make a list of actions the desired “future you” will engage in regularly and the actions that person will refuse to perform.

在畅想未来的自己时，在设定新目标的同时，也要列出一个清单，你理想中的 "未来的你 "会经常采取的行为和会拒绝采取的行为。

For example, if you want to become a more positive person, some of the actions you’ll engage in regularly include smiling, laughing, and expressing your gratitude, while some of the actions you’ll refuse to perform would be complaining, brooding, and criticizing.

例如，如果你想成为一个更积极的人，你会经常做的一些行为包括微笑、大笑和表达感激之情，而你会拒绝做的一些行为则是抱怨、沉思和批评。